Spicy Girl Summer Is the New Hot Girl Summer: Here’s Your 8-Step Guide to Living It

Move over, Hot Girl Summer: there’s a new theme in town. Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg just spiked the seasonal punch, declaring, “It’s a Spicy Girl Summer. It’s hot, but it’s more than hot. It’s zesty.” 

Think bolder attitudes, fewer apologies, and a general commitment to saying yes to thing that might make your mother uncomfortable. Ready to level up? Here, we present the Girls Gotta Eat guide to achieving peak spiciness this summer. Time to grab the sunscreen (and maybe a vibrator) and steal this eight-step pleasure-dome playbook.

What is a Spicy Girl Summer?

As Hesseltine puts it, “We’re doing things differently. We’re doing things spontaneously, more spicy. The [toys] we dropped are spicy.” The emphasis is on stepping way outside of your comfort zone and putting your confidence on blast and pleasure first. 

The 8-Step Guide to Spicy Summer Living

Step 1: Survive the wedding season with your sanity intact.

Greenberg laughs, “Survive other people’s weddings, big theme of the summer.” And Hesseltine’s sister-of-the-bride pep talk is pure gold: “No one’s thinking about you …everyone is thinking about the bride and groom.”

Wear the dress you love, slit it if you must, dance till the open bar closes—then ghost the reception if your social battery dies.

Step 2: Date yourself first.

“I’m never gonna not do something that I wanna do out of fear that I have to do it alone,” Greenberg declares. From solo farmers-market strolls to art-museum days, the pair promise that nobody’s judging—and you’ll probably make a few friends along the way.

Step 3: Turn up the heat in the bedroom.

The girls crowd-sourced summer goals from listeners, and threesomes won by a landslide: “Lot of threesomes. Lot of getting Eiffel-towered,” Hesseltine says. (Thank you, Sabrina Carpenter!)

But if you’re feeling a bit nervous, Hesseltine recommends easing in with the Feeld app or testing “lighter fetishes, like edging, to start.” Feeling extra steamy? Try reverse cowgirl: “Spin around. Do not let that intimidate you at all.”

Step 4: Be a tourist in your own town.

Hesseltine swears by starring hidden local gems in her phone and hitting them when she’s nearby. “What have I previously starred that I could go to?” she asks. Outdoor movies, night markets, and jazz Fridays can all turn your zip code into Ibiza if you plan it right.

Step 5: Perfect your glow.

Greenberg’s tanning kit is locked and loaded. “I love the tanning drops,” she said, adding that safety comes first and it’s important to “wear sunscreen, wear hair sunscreen.” She also reveals her ride-or-die product—Jergens. “I just use the Jergens tanning lotion,” she said. “I’m smooth and tan.” DIY bronzing means no spray-tan appointments—just golden limbs and more beach time.

Step 6: Follow the three F’s.

“Get fit, get f*cked, [and] get financially stable” is Greenberg’s mantra for 2025. Lift heavier, schedule the bedroom cardio, and binge Tori Dunlap or Ramit Sethi content for money moves. How you get f*cked, of course, is entirely your call. 

Step 7: Say yes more than no.

“Someone says, hey, you wanna do this thing? Yep, I’ll be there,” Hesseltine shrugs. Worst case scenario? You give an Irish goodbye. Best case is a legendary story and maybe a new make-out partner.

Step 8: Mix up your dating roster.

Greenberg’s assignment is to mix it up. “Game it! Keep a list, make a PowerPoint…really dating opposite people,” she suggests. Finance bro tonight, break-even comedian tomorrow. The spreadsheet doesn’t lie—and you might discover you’re into someone you wouldn’t have typically thought.

Ready to own Spicy Girl Summer? In Ashley’s words, “Godspeed. Get those vibrators. Get tan. Have a threesome. Fix your hemorrhoids. Read books. Enjoy your own town. Say yes more than no.” All this is guaranteed to make your Spicy Girl Summer hotter than Arizona asphalt.