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Violet Benson Says ‘Bad Luck’ Isn’t Random—It’s the Energy You Keep

November 13, 2025

We’ve all had those weeks where bad luck follows you everywhere—your car won’t start, your phone dies mid-call, and somehow your coffee ends up on your shirt instead of in your cup. On Almost Adulting, host Violet Benson had her own version of that week—and she’s convinced it isn’t just a coincidence.

The superstition—and science—behind sharing your good news

After a series of unfortunate events, including breaking her foot, getting a UTI, and developing a skin rash all in the same week, Benson finds herself questioning the deeper meaning behind these occurrences. It’s a situation many of us can relate to, where we start to wonder if there’s more to our misfortunes than mere coincidence.

“I’m telling you, it’s because I got an evil eye—and it was one of my friends,” she says. “My dad has always told me, never share good news with anyone. Slavic and Middle Eastern people believe bad things happen when someone envies your happiness, even if they love you.”

Regardless of your belief in spirituality, Benson’s story resonates on a universal level. The people closest to us can inadvertently influence our lives with their energy, a concept that transcends cultural and spiritual boundaries.

Benson doesn’t believe “bad luck” always comes from people with bad intentions. In fact, she points out that it can come from people who genuinely care about you. “People think the evil eye comes from hate,” she says, “but it’s usually from people who love you but are in a low vibration. They don’t even realize they’re sending that energy your way.”

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It’s a belief rooted in self-protection—especially for those raised in cultures that value humility as a form of armor. “I grew up being told not to brag,” Benson explains. “If someone asked about work, I’d always say, ‘It’s going well, but it could be better.’ It’s not because I want attention—it’s because we’re taught to protect what’s good before someone else ruins it.”

That instinct, while superficially superstitious, mirrors modern psychology’s concept of emotional contagion—how people unconsciously absorb and reflect each other’s moods. When your friend is struggling, your success might trigger discomfort, jealousy, or even sadness, whether they admit it or not. And as Benson learned the hard way, those vibes can feel contagious.

When bad luck becomes a mirror

The twist in Benson’s story is that her “unlucky” week started after she caught up with two friends she hadn’t seen in months. One complained about a foot injury, the other about getting a UTI—and 24 hours later, Benson found herself with both. “I know they didn’t mean harm,” she says, laughing. “They’re my friends. But the next day, I literally broke my foot and got a UTI. My parents were like, ‘This is why you don’t talk too much when things are going well.’”

Instead of dismissing her experiences as mere coincidence, Benson uses them to underscore the importance of emotional boundaries. It’s a powerful reminder that we can protect our emotional well-being, even from those we love.

The lesson here isn’t that you should stop sharing your good news—it’s that you should be mindful of where you place your joy. “Protect your peace,” she advises. “Not everyone needs to know everything, especially when something good is still growing.”

Crawling through chaos and finding perspective

Of course, Benson finds the humor in bad luck. “I fell on my knees a few times in front of my housekeepers,” she says of her foot injury. “They were like, ‘Can you just sit down?’ I have a new respect for anyone who’s ever used crutches.”

But underneath the humor is a more profound truth: sometimes life forces us to slow down so we can see the energy we’ve been carrying. For Benson, being stuck at home reminded her to stop rushing through moments and start protecting her space—both physical and emotional.