5 Things a Married Couple Said About Sex That Were Way Too Honest

Nobody is being honest about sex. Not Gen Z, not your married friends, and definitely not the guys at dinner claiming twice a week like clockwork. On Come Together, hosts Erin and Abe Lichy get into all of it with zero filter—from the stats that say young people have stopped hooking up to what marriage and four kids actually does to your sex life. 

Here are some of their hottest takes from the episode.

Sex Truths: Gen Z ‘Sex Recession’ Sparks Debate Over Dating & Marriage Trends

Gen Z is in a sex recession

Up to 48 percent of Gen Z adults have never had sex, compared to 26 percent of millennials at the same age. “Millennials are just so much cooler,” Erin quips. “Sorry, Gen Z. I don’t know what’s up with you. Go out and have sex. Like, what are you doing?” 

The research blames social media, gaming, and streaming, but Abe isn’t buying that either. As a former avid World of Warcraft player who also went out regularly in his 20s, he considers himself living proof you can do both. “You can go out, pick up the girl, and still game.”

Post-hookup pizza is apparently a gentleman’s move

Back in his single days in New York, Abe had a system. After hooking up, he’d suggest grabbing a late-night slice, which conveniently got the girl out of his apartment. If that didn’t work, he’d just tell them he’s “weird about sleepovers.” He genuinely believes this was chivalrous. “They get a slice of pizza and their cab ride paid home. They get to wake up in their bed.” Erin, for the record, is not charmed. “There’s nothing nice or sweet about that. It’s a d*ck thing to do.”

If a guy actually likes you, he’s probably not trying to sleep with you

Abe fully admits he set up their first date near his apartment on purpose. Erin is still annoyed about it 15 years later. “You conveniently were like, ‘Let’s go to Duane Reade. You want to come meet my dog?’ It was a strategy to get me back to your apartment.” Abe doesn’t even deny it. “You’re goddamn right it was.” But they went back to his place and didn’t have sex. “I think it was a choice because we actually liked each other,” he shares. Fifteen years and four kids later, that tracks. 

Every married guy claims twice a week and it’s probably a lie

Abe went to dinner with three married friends and every single one said they have sex twice a week. He came home and told Erin. “I think they’re embellishing,” he admits. When he was honest at the table and said he and Erin don’t always hit that number, nobody budged. There was “some hedging, like, well, maybe not every weekend,” but not one of them actually adjusted their answer. “Men in their 40s lying about the amount of sex they have with their wives,” Erin laughs. “I die.”

Stop counting and start paying attention

“If you’re going to focus so much on how much you have sex, you lose the passion of the actual moment,” Erin explains. Frequency ebbs and flows. Some weeks it’s a lot. Other weeks, four kids need baths, businesses need running, and by 9 p.m. nobody is thinking about anything except sleep. That’s just real life. The one thing both hosts agree on is that letting it completely disappear is where it gets dangerous. “The minute you go months, you start to forget that it’s even a thing that you do,” Erin admits. 

Listen to the full episode on Come Together with Erin and Abe Lichy, available wherever you listen to podcasts.

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