Jasmyn Smith’s Tips For Surviving the Internet as a Sensitive Person on ‘She’s So Lucky’

The internet can feel like a double-edged sword. On one side, it opens doors, builds communities, and creates opportunities people never dreamed possible. On the other hand, it can bring out trolls, amplify insecurities, and magnify every misstep. For creators who share their lives online, surviving the internet is a daily practice.

On She’s So Lucky, host Les Alfred sits down to talk about this topic with Jasmyn Smith, creator and host of Delusional Diaries. Smith has built a thriving career online, but she doesn’t sugarcoat the emotional work that comes with being a sensitive person in a public space.

Her story is proof that healing, growth, and joy can absolutely exist alongside the noise of the internet.

Finding strength through sensitivity

When Alfred asks how she balances being sensitive with such a public career, Smith doesn’t hesitate to admit the journey wasn’t easy. “I read every comment and now I’m like, okay, whatever,” she says. “But before, it would ruin my day. Like not just my day, but my week.”

She explains that therapy helped her uncover why specific comments hit so hard. “It was like, why am I being affected so much by these comments?” she continues. “What’s this stemming from? And I think [it was] a lot of unpacking things from whether it was earlier life, growing up in high school, whatever it is made me realize, oh, these are deeper issues that are coming about.”

That willingness to face the hard stuff instead of brushing it aside has made a difference. Smith leans on therapy not just for her past, but for navigating the present. She talks openly about the tools that worked for her: “EMDR when I first started therapy, which I was a big fan of, but then I started doing remote therapy,” she explains.

Smith also acknowledges that she had to overcome her own avoidance before therapy could truly help. “I wanted to feel better, but I didn’t actually want to do the work to feel better because I wanted to avoid talking about certain things,” she says. “And once I faced that, I realized that life is so much better.” This journey proves that facing the hard stuff, rather than brushing it aside, can lead to a more empowered and fulfilling life.

Smith’s journey is a reminder that therapy isn’t about achieving perfection—it’s about making progress. And for Smith, progress meant being honest with herself, even when it wasn’t comfortable. This emphasis on progress in therapy can give the audience a sense of hope and optimism about their own journeys.

Redefining authenticity online

For Smith, being authentic doesn’t mean oversharing every detail. “Being authentic isn’t just oversharing,” she explains. “You’re showing up as who you actually are, like who you would show up with anyone else.”

She also makes it clear that authenticity has to come from enjoyment, not metrics. “If I like it, I’m gonna post it,” she says. “I enjoy posting organically because if I was focused on performance…I’d start questioning, ‘Is this performing bad [because] you don’t like me or ’cause I got something weird?’ And I’m getting it into my head, which I can’t do. It gives me too much anxiety.”

That approach—posting what feels good, not what chases numbers—is at the heart of surviving the internet. It’s not about ignoring reality, but about staying rooted in yourself.

Building joy alongside boundaries

The most refreshing part of Smith’s perspective is her balance of openness and boundaries. She humorously acknowledges how parasocial relationships can blur lines, especially when fans feel like they know her completely. “There is nothing that I don’t share,” she notes. “I genuinely am an open book. I don’t really have any boundaries, which, for me, makes it more fun. It’s not for everyone. I don’t necessarily recommend it. But that’s just the way that I ended up.” This emphasis on balance can reassure the audience and guide them in their own online relationships.

But even with that openness, she knows where to draw lines. Fans might feel invested, but Smith keeps her center steady by focusing on joy. As she puts it, “It’s easy to be authentic when you are having a fun time. It’s hard to be authentic when you’re not enjoying what you’re posting.”

Choosing growth over noise

The episode closes on a reminder that surviving the Internet isn’t about escaping criticism, but about choosing growth over noise. That shift—from tying her worth to one role to embracing many sources of joy—has made Smith’s path not just sustainable, but inspiring.

For anyone navigating public life online, Smith’s story is proof that it takes more than thick skin. It takes therapy, honesty, boundaries, and above all, joy.

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