4 Positive Affirmations to Live by That Can Change Your Life for the Better 

Words are powerful tools, and the right words can literally make or break the trajectory of your life. Words can be positive affirmations that ground you in moments of uncertainty. They can also anchor, empower, and support you—it’s all in how you use them.

Sami Spalter and Sami Clarke, cofounders of health platform FORM, are big believers in the power of words and their ability to  change your life. In a recent episode of Transform, the Samis are sharing the words they’re living by right now—the positive affirmations, mantras, phrases, and reminders that resonate in this season of life. Here are some positive affirmations you can try and how to use them wisely to manifest the life you want. 

1. “Your comfort zone is where your dreams die.”

Perhaps an intense mantra, but this positive affirmation inspired Spalter in this season. As someone with really big dreams, Spalter believes that if she is not stretching herself, she is not growing. “If I feel comfortable or it feels easy, then I am not actually accomplishing my dreams, and I deserve to accomplish my dreams,” she says.

Spalter recalls the early days of launching FORM and being more hidden in the background. She dubs herself the “inbox queen,” as most of her responsibilities were admin roles behind the scenes. Now, as a cohost of the company’s podcast, Spalter has had to learn to get out of her comfort zone. “Say yes to the hard things. Say yes to stepping out of your comfort zone. I’m so grateful to have said yes because I never would have known how far I could go,” she adds.

2. “I choose to check in, rather than check out.”

This positive affirmation, inspired by author Gabby Bernstein, is a powerful shift to choose presence over avoidance and dissociation. Clarke admits that for a long time she might check out when something hard happens or triggers her—scroll TikTok, watch TV, and anything other than looking inward.

“Every single moment when we decide to check in rather than check out is when we meet the depths of who we are,” Clarke reveals. “It’s when we say, ‘I love you no matter what. I am here with you, and I am not abandoning you. I want to do this life with you.’ That is how we meet our dreams, our relationship goals—by checking in and not checking out.” Now when things trigger her, Clarke has learned to pause, take a deep breath, and show compassion to herself and the other person.

3. “Peace over pressure.” 

Spalter’s second affirmation comes from influencer and skincare guru Jordan Harper. It’s been stuck in Spalter’s head ever since she heard it on one of Harper’s Instagram reels. 

Spalter describes peace as a deep breath, a pause, and the ocean waves. Pressure, on the other hand, reminds her of the color red or the feeling of cold, hard concrete or being stuck in a corner. The difference between peace and pressure is a mentality of “I have to” versus “I get to.”

“Pressure robs us of the experience to act from a place of fullness and when you are in your body. When you make decisions from peace, you are going to live such a better life,” Spalter explains.

4. “I am light.”

This simple mantra helps Clarke feel like she can just be without the pressure of doing anything. “It allows me to let go of the noise, the world, and ‘the shoulds.’ It allows me to enter my day, into my practice, into myself, and into my relationships knowing that I am light,” she explains.

This positive affirmation is not about perfection, but about remembering who you are beneath the fear, worry, doubt, and pressures of life. “We are all light. We are here to truly be this light force through all the ways we express light by just being us,” Clarke adds.

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