Conquering FOPO (Fear of People’s Opinions) and Unlocking Success with Dr. Michael Gervais

By | January 9, 2025

In this exciting episode of the HEAL with Kelly Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Michael Gervais, a high-performance psychologist, national bestselling author, and one of the world’s leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. Over his remarkable 20+ year career, Dr. Gervais has worked with world-class athletes and organizations sharing the mental skills and practices that he has found drive success in high-pressure environments.
 
Together, we dive into his latest book, “The First Rule of Mastery,” and explore the psychological impact of our fear of people’s opinions, which he is known for first coining as FOPO on an Oprah Daily blog. We share personal (and funny!) stories and insights on how these fears shape our identities and relationships. FOPO has been a massive obstacle for me personally, so this conversation hits really deep. Dr. Gervais also emphasizes the importance of practicing curiosity, compassion, and self-awareness to navigate FOPO and many other of life’s challenges. We discuss the crucial role of recognizing inner strength and autonomy in finding one’s purpose through self-discovery, authenticity, and resilience. And we touch upon the negative effects of performance-based pressures on our youth, like anxiety, depression, and addiction.
 
Listen now to learn practical tools for managing emotions, handling opposing viewpoints, and gaining a clearer sense of purpose to elevate your own journey of self-discovery.

LINKS
Finding Mastery Website: https://findingmastery.com/
Dr. Michael Gervais on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelgervais/
‘The First Rule of Mastery’ on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4cIIDfZ
The Finding Mastery Podcast: https://findingmastery.com/podcast-start/

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