If You Want to Date, Unfortunately You Have to Go Outside This Summer

“The dating pool is ghetto,” says April McDaniel, cohost of Everybody’s Crazy. Her Advice? You better know what you want, and you better learn how to swim in a sea of situationships and relationships without labels.

McDaniel and cohost Savannah James keep it real when it comes to dating and love. They’re the friends who’ll tell you to split that bill (kidding, they’re actually anti-bill-splitting) and how to navigate the messy world of low-stakes relationships, baby mama drama, crazy exes, and all the chaos—and cringe—that comes with putting yourself out there.

May the odds be ever in your favor!

On why you should date multiple people:

“You are not going to find your person by talking to one person,” James says, despite being what she calls a “dinosaur” when it comes to dating. She’s been with LeBron for 23 years, since they were teenagers in high school. “You have to experience a lot of different people and personalities to be able to figure who you vibe with and who your person is.”

On the codependency trap:

McDaniel has thoughts on how quickly young people couple up: “You’re with someone for a year, and then, being by yourself feels like a challenge. If you are in a relationship at a young age, there is some sort of codependency.” She’s noticed that young men are either completely single or locked own—no in-between. The result? “When you are in a relationship at a young age, you almost become codependent on that person, in some ways that I don’t know are super healthy.”

Even James, who found her person early and got married in 2013, recognizes the modern pitfall: “There is a feeling of ‘I can’t make any moves without this person. I’m not finding out what I like to do.'”

On getting over a situationship:

When those blurry, unlabeled relationships inevitably end, James and McDaniel have simple advice: Go outside. “Go to a bar and pick up a number. You should date if you’re young. Go hang out and live your best life,” McDaniel says.

And if you’d rather just be alone for a while? That’s valid too. McDaniel, who describes herself as an “energy giving,” also loves her solo time: “I do enjoy being by myself…and I’m always with people. So time alone is good.”

You heard it from our favorite duo: Dating doesn’t have to be so serious. Situationships aren’t the end of the world. Sometimes the best thing you can do is stop overthinking it and just see what happens.