How to Get a Pisces to Become Obsessed with You

If you’ve ever fallen for a Pisces, you already know—it’s like trying to catch mist with your bare hands. They’re dreamy, romantic, intuitive, and mysterious enough to keep you hooked. But how do you get them to obsess over you? Lucky for you, Violet Benson, our favorite self-love guru and meme queen, broke it all down in a recent episode of Almost Adulting. So, grab your journal (or, let’s be real, a glass of wine), and let’s dive into the deep waters of Pisces love.

Who Is This Mysterious Fish?

First, let’s talk about what makes a Pisces tick. As Violet puts it, “Pisces guys can be highly emotional, but in their own way… they don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves, but they feel everything at all times.” These individuals are deeply sensitive, intuitive, and often fall into their little dream worlds. If you’re looking for someone practical and structured, keep moving—this one lives in the clouds.

Here are some key Pisces traits:

• Romantic to his core: If they’re into you, they’ll go full fairy-tale mode. Expect poetry, surprise gifts, and deep, soulful eye contact.
• Emotionally deep: They don’t do casual. They want a connection (emphasis on the italics, because yes, it’s that serious).
• Empathetic and kind: A Pisces feels everything. The pain of the world? They’re carrying it. A stray dog on the street? They’re emotionally invested.
• Escapist tendencies: Sometimes, they just disappear. Not because they’re ghosting (hopefully), but because they need time to process their intense emotions.
• Hopeless dreamer: Pisces are idealists who live for fantasy and romance. If you can step into their dream world, you’re golden.

Now that you know who you’re dealing with, let’s discuss strategy. How do you get them not just interested but obsessed?

How to Make a Pisces Fall for You—Hard

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Be Their Dream Partner

Pisces aren’t looking for just anyone. They want the full package—someone who’s emotional, romantic, creative, and deep. As Violet says, “They gravitate towards feminine ladies, towards love, towards romance… they want someone who can be there physically, mentally, and emotionally.” So put on that flowy dress, show your softer side, and make them feel like they’re in a Nicholas Sparks movie.

Show Off Your Creative and Spiritual Side

Nothing captivates a Pisces faster than someone who’s in touch with their emotions and creativity. Let them see that you have a rich inner world, whether it’s music, painting, poetry, or just an appreciation for the arts. As Violet puts it, “They want a partner who is interested in the arts, spiritual, into music, all into immersive experiences.”

Be Emotionally Open (But Not Clingy)

A Pisces loves love but also values space. They’re needy, sure, but if you suffocate them? They’re out. Violet explains, “They love a woman who is sweet, affectionate, emotionally mature, open with her feelings… but if you try to trap him or control him, he’ll ghost you.” The key? Be warm and loving, but don’t demand too much. Give them their space when they need to disappear into their fantasy world.

Let Them Chase You (Just a Little)

Pisces are naturally drawn to someone who shows interest first, but after that, let them come to you. Don’t bombard them with texts or demand constant attention. As Violet says, “They’re needy, but they also need their space. Show interest, then let him pursue you.”

Appeal to Their Fantasy

Pisces don’t fall for logic; they fall for vibes. If being with you feels like stepping into a romance novel, they’re hooked. “They just want to create the perfect fairy tale with you,” Violet says. Be soft, mysterious, and a little bit of a dreamer yourself—and let them believe they’ve found their soulmate.

What Turns Them Off (So You Don’t Ruin the Obsession)

Now that you know how to reel them in, let’s talk about what not to do. Because a Pisces can fall out of love just as fast as they falls in.

• Being emotionally closed off: If you’re playing the “mysterious, cold vibes” game, they’ll lose interest. They needs to feel you.
• Being mean or lacking empathy: Violet clarifies: “He’s not into a mean girl. He’s too sensitive for that.” Being rude or dismissive of others will push them away.
• Being too aggressive or pushy: They like a little mystery and romance. If you bulldoze over that, they’re done.
• Trying to control or suffocate them: Let them breathe! If you don’t, they’ll ghost faster than you can say, “Where’d you go?”

A Reality Check: Is Obsession Always a Good Thing?

Before we wrap up, let’s get a bit of a reality check. Having someone who’s obsessed with you is fun, but obsession isn’t always healthy. There’s a difference between someone being crazy about you in a romantic way and being possessive, jealous, or controlling. 

The most important thing in any relationship, regardless of the zodiac sign, is mutual love and respect. If obsession starts looking like control or manipulation? Cut bait.

Most importantly, your happiness matters. If you’re in a relationship where you feel drained, suffocated, or just not happy—it doesn’t matter how “obsessed” they are. Walk away. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it.

So, there you have it—your Pisces playbook, straight from Violet Benson herself. If you want them to get hooked, be their dream partner: emotional, creative, romantic, and just mysterious enough to keep them intrigued. But don’t forget, having a partner who truly values and respects you is the real goal.

Catch new episodes of Almost Adulting with Violet Benson every Tuesday on Dear Media. Listen everywhere you get your podcasts.