Ally Lewber Used Astrology to Heal From Her James Kennedy Breakup—and You Can, Too

When Ally Lewber popped up on The Balanced Blonde, host Jordan Younger teased that the reality-TV favorite was “so open and honest and vulnerable.” A few weeks later, she doubled down on that promise during her guest spot on We Met At Acme, offering even more cosmic insight into why splitting from her former DJ-fiancé James Kennedy was written in the stars. 

The result? A refreshingly real road map for anyone looking to swap heartbreak for healing—astrology-girl style.

A Saturn-return shake-up

If you’ve ever googled “Saturn return and chaos,” Lewber’s story will feel painfully familiar. “Honestly, the majority of my Saturn return was smooth sailing…and then December happened, all the stuff with James. We broke up, and I was like, there it is,” she says. 

Translation? When Saturn, the task-master planet, hits, it hits, forcing you to graduate from old patterns—ready or not.

Sobriety was the deal-breaker

While Bravo fans saw hints of turbulence, Lewber confirmed on Acme that the final straw was Kennedy’s relapse. “He was sober for majority of our relationship and then was drinking,” she recalls. “It was a non-negotiable for me…I have to kinda choose myself right now.”

That boundary mirrors what she told Younger—that she could no longer stay in a relationship that had her “walking on eggshells.”

Turning to the birth chart, not the bottle

Lewber’s first post-breakup move was to lean deeper into her calling. “I’m grateful because I’m able to do astrology, and, like, that’s always been my passion,” she states.

She doesn’t just study generic sun-sign memes, either. Lewber examines how each partner lights up her own placements: “James is an Aquarius, but how is his energy showing up in my chart? Instead of blaming the sign, look at your chart and see which signs work best for you.”

On Acme, she expands that astro-therapy lens beyond romance. “Astrology helps in so many different areas,” she says. “It’s just kinda cool to use it as a tool.” In other words, your transits can become a therapist’s notebook if you’re willing to read them honestly.

Spotting—and stopping—old patterns

Self-awareness didn’t arrive overnight. Lewber admits, “Those are patterns that, like, aren’t really healthy.” By tracing repeated themes—dating musicians with addiction struggles, playing caretaker, absorbing drama—she finally hit pause. As she tells Younger, “It does almost hold you accountable and…you have to be honest about, like, okay. That’s not normal.”

How to build your own celestial comeback

• Audit your cosmic red flags. Start with Venus, the seventh house, and any squares to Saturn or Neptune. They often reveal where you confuse chaos with chemistry—exactly what Lewber identified once she saw how Aquarius energy pings her hidden-love house.
• Time your glow-up with transits. Whether it’s Saturn return or a Pluto square, mark the exact dates. Know that the mess has an end in sight.
• Make the breakup actionable. Ally fills the space James left with her StarStruck podcast and one-on-one chart readings. What creative seed can you water while Mars fires up your tenth-house goals?
• Replace blame with a birth-chart debrief. The next time you get the urge to text your ex, pull both charts side-by-side instead. Ask Lewber’s question, “How did their planets activate mine, and what lesson was I supposed to learn?”

If a DJ-fueled, reality-TV breakup can launch Lewber into her dream career, imagine what the stars have in store for you. Take the space you need—she swears, “I’m so happy I took space because I…see things a little clearly.”