On ‘Beyond the Mat’: A ‘Heart Whisperer’ Reveals 3 Emotional Red Flags You Might Be Missing 

Ever get hit with a random cry you can’t explain? Or feel weirdly off even when nothing’s technically wrong? According to holistic therapist Estelle Bingham, that’s not you being dramatic—it’s your heart trying to alert you to emotional red flags.

On Beyond the Mat, host Bryony Deery sits down with Bingham (aka “The Heart Whisperer”) to unpack how our emotions speak before our brains catch up. Turns out, the real red flags in life aren’t just in relationships—they’re in the moments we feel disconnected, shut down, or overwhelmed and keep brushing it off.

With two decades of experience helping people move through emotional blocks and back into joy, Bingham breaks down the patterns she sees most often. Here are the three emotional signals she says most of us tend to ignore, and why they matter more than we think.

1. You burst into tears out of nowhere

One minute you’re fine, the next, not so much. Maybe it’s during a meditation. Maybe it’s while brushing your teeth. Maybe someone asked you a simple question and your eyes welled up before you could even answer. Bingham calls this the “heart override.”

“When people come to see me,” she says, “there may be quite a few tears that come through in those first sessions. But that’s because the heart is so relieved to be in a space where it can finally express itself.”

The tears aren’t a breakdown, they’re a breakthrough. According to Bingham, it’s what happens when we’ve been keeping things inside for so long that our body jumps in to release it—whether we’re ready or not. That emotional release is your body saying “thank you” for finally making space to feel again.

2. You keep chasing things that don’t actually fulfill you

You’ve ticked the boxes and followed the plan, but something still feels off. If you’ve ever reached a goal and felt nothing, or kept striving just to stay distracted, you’re not lazy or ungrateful—you might just be avoiding another of many emotional red flags.

Bingham says many people ignore what their heart is really calling them to do because it feels inconvenient or scary. She gets it—she did the same thing. “When I was growing up, when I was a teenager, I really didn’t want to do anything like this. I wanted to be a TV presenter and a journalist,” she explains. “But what I say is that, you know, your destiny—at the end of the day, you can run, but you can’t hide. And your destiny comes knocking at the door.”

She describes a turning point in her late 20s when, after having her son, everything shifted. That was the moment she realized the emotional work had always been in her…it just took time (and a lot of resistance) to finally let it in.

3. You’re emotionally “fine” but numb

You’re not necessarily emotional, you’re just floating—somewhat detached, on autopilot—one of the biggest emotional red flags there is. You tell yourself you’re fine, maybe even proud of how “unbothered” you are. But deep down, something feels flat. And that might not be peace. It might be emotional avoidance.

“If you are afraid of your feelings, then you are not living your true essence,” Bingham says. She explains that when we suppress the harder stuff—grief, anger, fear—we block ourselves from feeling the good stuff, too.