How to Network Without Being Cringe

In today’s world, building professional connections is a must if you want to level up your career. But let’s be honest: the fear of coming off as “cringe” can stop you in your tracks. You want to make meaningful relationships without sounding overly formal or desperate. 

The good news? It’s entirely possible to network authentically, both online and offline. 

In-Person Networking: Less Awkward, More Genuine

Start Small with Shared Spaces

If the idea of walking into a packed networking event makes your palms sweat, start with familiar territory. Your local coffee shop, gym, or even a community event related to your interests can be good places for organic and casual conversations. For example, if you’re into coding, join a local hackathon. You’re already there for a shared purpose, so connecting feels less forced.

Use the Power of Compliments

Skip the elevator pitch and start with something you genuinely admire about the other person—maybe it’s their presentation skills or unique perspective during a panel discussion. Thoughtful compliments show you’re paying attention and make others feel valued.

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Avoid yes/no questions and ask, “What inspired you to pursue this career path?” or “What’s been the most exciting part of your role lately?” Open-ended questions lead to deeper conversations and reveal shared interests or goals.

Follow Up Meaningfully 

After meeting someone, send a quick follow-up email or message referencing a specific part of your conversation. Keep it casual: “It was great chatting about AI trends at last week’s tech meetup. I would love to hear more about your experience implementing ethical AI practices!”

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LinkedIn: Personalize Your Outreach

LinkedIn doesn’t have to feel like a corporate resume dump. When connecting, explain why you’re reaching out specifically to them. Maybe you read an article they wrote or admire their career trajectory. Authenticity here is key.

Bluesky: Embrace Casual Conversations

Newer platforms like Bluesky have a more laid-back vibe. Participate in discussions that interest you or share thoughtful insights on trending topics. Authentic interactions build credibility and help people see you as someone worth knowing.

TikTok: Show Your Personality

TikTok might not scream “professional networking,” but it’s a powerful tool for building your brand. Share your expertise through your unique lens—quick tutorials, industry insights, or behind-the-scenes glimpses of your creative process. Engage with others in your industry by commenting on or duetting their videos.

Zoom: Be Prepared and Personable

Virtual coffee chats or meetings can be as impactful as in-person ones. Before hopping on a Zoom call, research who you’re trying to network with. Know who you’re speaking with and have a few conversation points ready. Smile, make eye contact (as much as possible on a screen), and don’t shy away from showing a bit of your personality.

Slack: Build Micro-Connections 

If you’re part of a Slack group or workspace, take advantage of it! Participate in channels related to your interests or expertise. Celebrate others’ wins, share helpful resources, and don’t hesitate to DM someone if you’re genuinely curious about their work. Just keep your messages friendly and non-intrusive.

Tips for Both Worlds

1. Give First, Receive Later: Relationships are a two-way street. Instead of trying to network with someone with “What can you do for me?” think about how you can provide value. Maybe you have a resource, connection, or skill they’d appreciate.
2. Be Consistent: Networking isn’t a one-and-done activity. Stay active in your communities, engage regularly with content, attend events, and check in with people periodically. Consistency builds trust.
3. Stay True to Yourself: The most effective networking happens when you’re genuine. Don’t try to mimic someone else’s style or be overly polished. Show up as your real self—quirks and all—and the right people will gravitate toward you.

Building professional connections doesn’t have to feel intimidating or inauthentic. By embracing genuine curiosity, shared interests, and consistency, you’ll create a meaningful and supportive network without a hint of cringe.