‘I Am A Maserati. I Cost A Lot To Maintain’: Margo Graff Explains The Sugar Baby Lifestyle In Los Angeles

Margo Graff, the self-proclaimed “queen of receiving,” is debunking some misconceptions about being a sugar baby. Many people see it as a power play where the older, wealthier sugar daddy has control over the younger, financially dependent sugar baby. On the other hand, people like Graff, who is also an actress and model, see it as a form of empowerment that grants access to a life of luxury on their own terms.

As a sugar baby, Graff has received anywhere from $16,000 to $17,000 a month, and plenty of lavish gifts, like the horse she received for her birthday. She won’t talk to any man whose net worth is less than $10 million, preferably $50 to $100 million.

For Graff, a soft life is the best life, and there’s nothing wrong with receiving. She recently sat down with Nicole Walters, host of Tell Me More with Nicole Walters, to discuss her perspective on sugar babies and why she sees it as a role of empowerment. Keep reading to learn what life as a sugar baby in Los Angeles looks like and why it’s okay to accept support from others.

What is profit-based dating?

According to Graff, a sugar baby is someone who operates in her feminine energy and receives things effortlessly, just by being her divine self. She describes a sugar baby as a “trad wife in the making,” saying, “I want to be a trad wife who also has my own businesses that my man can actually help me self-fund.”

Graff looks at profit-based dating the same way she would apply to a job—never go for minimum wage. To any woman who judges that, she asks, “Do you not feel comfortable having a soft life? Do you not feel worthy of receiving a soft life?”

The one thing Graff wants people to know about profit-based dating is this: “If you never feel comfortable receiving, if you never hold space for power and set boundaries to say what you require of somebody, if you do not put investment into yourself where you see yourself as an asset, you will never be comfortable asking for what you need and receiving anything other than the bare minimum.”

One common misconception about the sugar baby lifestyle

Profit-based dating has sparked a variety of opinions, including the assumption that sugar babies have “daddy issues.” However, Graff’s experience defies that stereotype. She was raised by a father who was a “strong man” who provided for her, shaping her understanding of relationships. This strong bond with her father influenced how she views gender roles, particularly her appreciation for the traditional dynamic where a man protects and provides for a woman.

“I need to have a man who is going to take care of me as good as my father has. I’ve put so much money into my acting career, thinking it would pay it back to me. I’ve lived a really beautiful life,” Graff explains. “I cost a lot of money to maintain. I am a Maserati. You will never see me walk in a room and not know that I am expensive.”

The reality of living in Los Angeles

Another surprising fact about Graff, in her relationships, she comes to the table with assets, multiple properties, and even trust funds to the table. She’s a hustler: “I work five jobs. I do a lot. It’s not like I sit on my butt and just look pretty, and I am useless. I am building businesses, investing in companies, and trying to do all the things,” she says.

Although she may work five jobs, she says it’s still not enough to pay her bills in the ever-expensive Los Angeles. Living in L.A. can cost a pretty penny. After all, it consistently ranks in the top 10 most expensive cities to live in the United States. The glamorous city of stars is full of people struggling to make ends meet but not Graff. She capitalizes the “sugar baby” label to fund her lifestyle and get ahead.

How do you find a sugar daddy?

From dating a man who lived in an ambulance part-time and crashing with her part-time to dating women, Graff has a lot of experience in the romance department and she loves love. While she admits she has taken in a few “street rats” over the years, she has now leveled up as a sugar baby.

Graff admits she has fallen in love with a lot of her sugar daddies, explaining that the most she’s taken on at once is two or three. “Some of them were just for the fun and the money. A lot of them were for the love, the fun, and the money,” she says.

So how do you find a sugar daddy? Graff likes to meet sugar daddies by going out to lunch and working at nice hotels like Hotel Bel Aire and The Maybourne Beverly Hills, even golf clubs. She also meets them on websites, which list their net worth and annual income. She won’t go lower than a net worth of $10 million. On average a good allowance from a sugar daddy is $8,000 to $10,000 a month.

Once a sugar daddy and sugar baby match, sex is not an expectation upon every meeting. Graff says it’s actually better that you don’t. “Part of the withholding and the game is getting someone to make the effort. I am very empowered and safe about it as well,” she explains.

Mastering the art of receiving

Graff says that receiving is one of her superpowers, which attributes to her success as a sugar baby. “I am the queen of receiving. It starts with having the utmost gratitude and recognizing all the ways in which you already receive. If you don’t recognize how you are already receiving abundantly, then you are not going to continue to receive,” she explains.

Graff’s job is to pour belief into whoever she is with and be their biggest cheerleader. Like her, the men Graff dates don’t operate in a scarcity mindset. Her ability to make them shine is her secret sauce. It’s also the reason, she believes, men want to be with her. “I am a number one hype woman. I’ll pour belief into you. I will make you feel like a superhero because I am Superwoman,” she says.

The sugar baby: a role of empowerment

According to Graff, women who have had to rely solely on themselves often struggle with embracing their feminine side and allowing themselves to receive. “They are in such survival mode that they don’t know how to sit back and receive without needing to do a single thing,” she says.

Graff doesn’t see herself as a sex worker, but as dating someone with money. Instead, she sees the money she earns as a gift or an allowance. Her life motto is to operate from a place of empowerment: “I see myself as an asset. Every woman should feel comfortable asking for what they need and receiving it, in any relationship,” Graff says.