What Does It Mean To Vibe With Someone?

Let’s talk about relationships for a second. Friends, flings, love of your life, situationships even??? We’re talking about all of it. There are sooo many ways to kick things off with someone, but one of the best ways to start off any kind of relationship is just by vibing. No BS, no fake laughs, just all genuine good vibes.

 “Vibing” is a word we all throw around 24/7 now, we know you’re no stranger to it. Whether it’s a “we vibed so well,” or “I don’t know, the vibe was totally off,” you’ve heard it, you’ve said it, you’ve consumed it in media, it’s everywhere. But, what does it even mean to vibe with someone?

Today, we’re dedicating this post to talking all about what it means to vibe with someone. We’re all gonna share some practical tips on how to vibe with someone, we’re not leaving anything out. Let’s dive in!

What Does It Mean To Vibe With Someone?

We hear the phrase “to vibe with someone” a lot, but what does it really mean??? Vibing with someone is just a slang term for when you have some sort of immediate connection that draws you together. Like, you just start having fun right away even though you barely know each other. Organically, this is hard to come by as an adult, but you can still curate positive vibes with the right strategy. So, whether you’re trying to make friends in a new city or find your ultimate ride-or-die, here’s how you can vibe with someone:

How To Vibe With Someone?

Find people that have common interests. 

You need to get out of your comfort zone and find people you share common interests with. Otherwise, what is there to vibe about??? It’s the start of a great friendship foundation, just listen to this episode of Almost Adulting if you don’t believe us.

Whether you tune into The Redheads Book Club together each month or find a hobby you both enjoy, find. common. ground!

Have confidence.

Okay, this one is huge. You need to emulate a confident mindset if you want to attract people and really vibe with them. For more tips on this, check out the episode of Probably a Podcast called “Friendship and Confidence 101.” 

Honestly, even if you’re not all the way there yet, the key to confidence is a little delusion! Seriously, no one will know if you’re working into your confidence era and faking it ’til ya make it. If you start off insecure when vibing with someone, it starts the relationship off on the wrong foot.

Match their energy.

Once you find someone that feels right, match their energy. If they’re at the club getting WILD, you need to get wild too. If they’re at the salon gushing over some hot goss about Vanderpump Rules, you gotta engage in that same excitement for celebrity drama. Or, maybe it’s a workplace acquaintance with this cool, confident feminine energy—girl, match it.

Don’t come into a relationship too hot or too flat—just be present! People feel safe when they don’t feel like you’re trying to overcompensate, or trying to be someone that you’re not. Listen to this episode of With Whit for more about being present, being you, and being real.

Make a vibey atmosphere.

There is so much about an environment that can give off bad vibes. (Don’t believe us??? Check out our post on bedroom red flags for an example.) If you’re having people over to your space, try to set the mood with some vibey music, snack choices, and anything else to make your home feel super fun and inviting. 

I think we speak for everyone when we say that if we go somewhere and it’s awkward and uncomfy, chances are we probably don’t plan on returning. Don’t let this be you!

Tell them what you love about them. 

As you start talking to someone more, tell them what you love about them. Do you love what they’re wearing? How funny they are? Their make-up and nails? Their drink choice? How do they go all-in on the dance floor? Just tell them! Giving compliments will definitely help create positive vibes and instant connections. If you need to know just how to express your love to the relationships in your life, this episode of Real Pod talks all about cultivating quality relationships, and this episode of Note to Self discusses navigating friendships as an adult.

Be an amazing listener.

Not only do you need to communicate what you like about them, but you also need to make eye contact and listen when they talk about themselves! Active listening is huuuuge when vibing with someone. After all, it shows that you really care about their interests and experiences. They’ll know you’re the type of ride-or-die friend that will always make sure their friends are okay. It’ll tell them your future friendship will be authentic and equal . . . and full of good vibes, of course. 

Stop performing and just start listening.

So this tip is kind of similar to matching the person you’re vibing with’s energy, but we’re gonna expand on it more (because it does matter!). When you think the vibes are good and you’re getting along with someone just as you hoped, don’t start trying to compare and contrast.

You don’t have to both love shows like the OC, and even if it feels authentic, trauma-bonding on day one is not necessary (been there, done that.) Just ask the real questions so you can get past small talk and form real connections!

Share a little juicy, unfiltered fun facts about yourself.

Okay, we said no trauma-bonding, but sharing juicy secrets about yourself when you start vibing is key to truly connecting. We’re not telling you to come in with your most embarrassing moment or your deepest darkest secret, but general vulnerability is magnetic.

Plus, when you already feel like you’re getting to know someone because they’re opening up, doesn’t it just make you even more excited to keep the vibes going? Listen to this episode of Recovering from Reality to learn more about why authenticity is essential.

Play the long game—trust us.

Good vibes aren’t (and can’t) be rushed. Instead of trying to rush intimacy, let it simmer and build up. The shared laughs, eye contact, and “wait, same!” moments aren’t made overnight. It’s important to savor the small moments you share instead of trying to make every hang out or conversation monumental. Listen to this episode of Because ily for some more important friendship rules just like this one.

Have a good time!

Most of all, though, just have fun. People want to know they’re going to have a good time whenever they’re around you! It’ll make them excited to spend the rest of the day/night with you and potentially establish a long-term relationship. So, wherever you are, have confidence, vibe out, and have a good time.  

You can vibe with someone by giving off good energy!

Alright, guys, it’s time to find your core group of people. Whether you’re focusing on building confidence or you’re trying to figure out if you vibe with people the right way, we know you’ll rock every relationship and create alllll the good vibes. Just remember, you’re the main character babe—anyone would be lucky to vibe with you!

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