Recovering From Reality

with Alexis Haines

Hosted by mental health advocate and former reality television star Alexis Haines, Recovering from Reality illuminates the messy and magical path of coming home to yourself. Whether you’re on the road to recovery, seeking self-care techniques for surviving the capitalist machine, or just need a moment to remember that you’re not alone in your loneliness, we’re serving up the ultimate truth: your trauma doesn’t define you - your decision to deal with it does.

Razor sharp, modern, and culturally resonant, Alexis delivers intimate conversations and expert insights to empower you on the road to authentic wellness. Are you ready to recover from reality?


  • Ep. 53 Make Sure Your Friends Are Okay with Hunter MorenoIn this weeks episode we are sitting down with Hunter Moreno. Hunter started working in LA after college shooting videos for YouTube starts like Tana Mongeau, Bella Thorne, and Mod Sun. A few years in, after struggling with his own mental health...
  • Ep. 52 Call in show with yours trulyIn this weeks episode I am sitting down to do a Q&A episode where I am answering live call in questions along with questions that you all submitted on the Recovering from Reality Instagram page. We are covering topics like: what to do when your...
  • Ep. 51 New year, same us!Jackie Schimmel- Has from the Bitch Bible podcast joins me on the podcast today for a light hearted episode where we discuss resolutions, pop culture, podcasting and more! Visit Promo Code: REALITY for $25 off your first box! Produced by
  • Ep. 50 Turning Your Karma Into Your DharmaAngelika Alana is a life coach who saw a need to create an online space for people to receive life tools who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford a one on one coach. She is coming on the podcast today to share about how she developed her business....
  • Ep. 49 Life after OJ with Kim GoldmanIn this weeks episode i am sitting down with Kim Goldman who hosts the wildly popular podcast, Confronting OJ. Kims brother was brutally murdered 25 years ago and justice was never really served. Her brothers killer OJ Simpson was acquitted in his...
  • Ep. 48 Drugs Aren’t the Answer, Honey!In this week's episodes I am sitting down With Amy Dresner who is the author of a memoir called, “My Fair Junkie”. Amy and I dive into topics ranging from what it was like to write a book to the ongoing debate around choice and addiction. Produced by
  • Ep. 47 Turning your mess into your message with Cathy HellerIn this weeks episode I am sitting down with Cathy Heller who is the host of the Podcast ‘Don’t Keep Your Day Job’. Cathy is a self made millionaire who after many “failed” attempts in the music industry finally found her way in, in a very...
  • Ep. 46 Healing From Sex Addiction with Staci SproutIn this week’s episode, I am joined by psychotherapist, Staci Sprout.  Staci works with people healing from sex and love addictions, and came to this work through her own recovery.  She works with people of all genders who are struggling...
  • Ep. 45 Call-in Show with My Mom Andrea ArlingtonIn this week’s episode, I am joined by my mother, Andrea Arlington, to take some of your calls and questions.  We had amazing discussions with our callers, ranging from topics like manifestation, setting healthy boundaries in family...
  • Ep. 44 The Age of AnxietyMichele Kambolis is coming on the podcast today to talk about anxiety. Why are women more prone to anxiety? What is an anxiety disorder and what is “normal” anxiety? What are some simple actions that we can take to reduce the anxiety in our lives?...
  • From Meme to Marvelous With Rebecca BlackI have the lovely Rebecca Black joining me for some real candid conversation. We talk about her rise to fame from her viral music video, “Friday”, reinventing herself as a singer and artist, and finding her way out in Los Angeles at just 18 years old. Rebecca may still be young (22 now), but she is surely an old soul, and I relate to her on so many levels. I appreciate how much work she’s done on herself, and how she uses her growth to help other young people watching her YouTube channel.
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  • 73 QuestionsThis week, we have my comedian of a sister, Gabby, joining us!  She is asking me 73 questions in that stream of consciousness style everyone’s doing right now.  Except, we don’t play by those rules.  Gabby and I put our own spin on this fun game. I definitely wanted a funny episode to break up the serious stuff we discuss on Recovering From Reality, so I hope you guys laugh along with us.  
  • Turning Pain Into Comedy with Ali WeissIn this week’s episode, I have comedian and seriously funny lady, Ali Weiss joining me. Ali creates videos on Instagram that are truly hysterical, and after seeing her Kim Kardashian parody video, I knew I had to have her on the podcast! We discuss how she started theater and comedy, her mental health journey, and the highs and lows of life in the digital age.
  • Unshakable Faith with Dr.James MellonIn this week’s episode, I am joined by the wonderful Dr. James Mellon.  Dr. James is a minister at the Global Truth Center in LA, which follows Ernest Holmes philosophy, Science of the Mind. No this is not scientology. It's the philosophy that brought you The Secret! In this episode, we touch on our core beliefs like eternal life, universal truth, and the collective consciousness.  Dr. James explains the power our minds have in affirming and manifesting our own goals, health, and dreams.
  • Becoming the Head of the Pack w/ Zach Skow from the Pawsitive Change ProgramIn this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Zach Skow, the founder of the Pawsitive Change Program.  Pawsitive Change is a non-profit that runs in the California prison system, and brings rescue dogs into the prison population.  Zach and other trainers help inmates become dog trainers themselves. This is an incredible program, and helps bring hope and healing to not only those incarcerated, but to the dogs being rescued. 
  • Getting Inappropriate W/ Heather McdonaldThis week I have the witty and truly hilarious Heather McDonald joining us.  Heather is a comedian and the host of a podcast called Juicy Scoop.  In this episode, we discuss being a comedian in an easily “triggered” culture, her background and upbringing with wild brothers, and her time working with Chelsea Handler.  We also discuss the importance of having open conversations with our kids, especially around tough topics like drug abuse.
  • Let's Talk About Sex w/ Jamie Elizabeth the Holistic Sex CoachJoining me for this week’s episode is the lovely Jamie Elizabeth!  Jamie is a holistic sex and intimacy coach. In her sessions with clients, she helps people discover what they really want out of their sex lives, and owning their sexuality. Jamie gives us some great tips this episode, from scheduling conversations about sex, sex dates, skin time, and drop-ins.  She also gives us three approaches to have these uncomfortable conversations, through vulnerability, responsibility, and curiosity.
  • Exploring cannabinoids and the effects of micro-dosing w/ Joseph Sheehey and Lo BondiIn this Episode I am sitting down with Joseph Sheehey, founder and CEO of Cured Nutrition, and his girlfriend, Lo Bondi. Joseph comes on the podcast to talk about how his attempted suicide turned his life and focus towards starting up a company that uses cannabinoids to help people heal. Lo is also in recovery for an eating disorder. Together, they explore the benefits of using plant medicine as a way to heal. 
  • Not All Heroes Wear CapesIn this week’s episode, I had the honor of interviewing the amazing Bree Olson. You may remember Bree from being one of Charlie Sheen's "goddesses" during the time period where he was publicly dealing with many troubles. She got wrapped up even more when it turned out that he was HIV positive and she had no idea. Bree is a powerful woman and her story is one of survival. We discuss her early childhood trauma, her time in juvenile detention and how she entered the porn industry. 
  • Repairing Your Marriage w/ Adam and Danielle from Marriage and MartinisIn this episode, I sat down with Danielle and Adam of the Marriage and Martinis podcast. I wanted to have them on because marriage can often be messy, with lots of highs and lows, and people are rarely talking about it. However, these two are so authentic and real about their experience. It’s truly refreshing to hear! I hope you guys enjoy our dialogue about marriage, mental illness, loss, and much more.
  • Call-In Show W/ Sarah Nicole Landry (The Birds Papaya)Today, I am sitting down with Sarah Nicole from @thebirdspapaya to do another call-in show! Our questions ranged from topics like accepting our past, re-branding mental health, staying authentic, and finding the balance in body positivity. We also answer some questions relating to addictions, eating disorders, and dealing with divorce and separation. Keep in mind we are totally not professionals in any of these areas!  We are simply speaking from experience, and hope you will relate to our stories.
  • Being In a VICE Documentary Changed My Life w/ KevinKevin started using drugs at 12 years-old, and when we met at 15, we started using together.  Because we each had so much family chaos and trauma, we truly relied on each other to get by. We eventually parted ways and I got sober. Two years later while I was working for VICE, I got a call that Kevin needed help. We ended up doing a mini doc on him and it now has over 1.2 million downloads on YouTube. Now 6 years later were catching up w/ Kevin.
  • Overcoming Depression Without DrugsWhat happens when you have depression, but don't respond to drugs? What if the side effects are intolerable? What if they actually make your depression worse?  That was my experience. For the last 6 years I have battled with depression and I have finally won.   In todays episode I am diving into my personal experience with depression and anxiety. I am sharing the steps that I took that made a remarkable difference in my mental health and healed my depression. And were talking about my experience with
  • Call-In Show With Dr. Judy HoI am sitting down with Dr. Judy Ho to answer you questions in a LIVE podcast episode. Dr. Judy is a Licensed and triple board certified Clinical and Forensicand Neuropsychologist, with a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and extensive experience working with clients of all ages, facing a variety of challenges and issues.
  • Psychic Vibes With Heather AubleIn this episode, I am joined by spiritual healer and overall beautiful human, Heather Auble!  We get into Heather’s experience as a psychic, and how she learned to harness these abilities.  She also teaches me how to protect my own energy, and different rituals I can use to refresh from a total energy overload.   Plus, she gives me a profound reading at the end, so you’ll want to stick around for that!
  • The Dark Side of Teen Behavioral Modification Programs with Sydney Montana At 15 years old, Sydney was sent to a behavior modification program for troubled teens. This program was traumatizing, and caused her a great deal of pain. Her and I discuss being an addict in rehab at 13, why she was sent to this program, and how she is doing today, 10 years later. Sydney’s growth and recovery is incredibly inspiring to me, and my heart hurts for all children that suffered these reform “school” experiences.
  • Bridging the Cultural Divide w/ Triana BrowneIn this week’s episode, I hop on a call with Triana Browne!  Triana competes in pageant circuits, and was crowned Miss Oklahoma 2017, Miss America 2018, and Miss USA runner up.  I chat with Triana about being multiracial and embracing her race despite adversity in society, school, and the pageant industry. Triana is half African American and half Native American, and works hard to give Native Americans recognition. She speaks up for Native rights and gives her people the support they deserve.  
  • Call In Show W/ Bob ForrestThis episode is a bit different because we are doing a call-in show with my friend Bob Forrest! So, we gave out a number and had you guys phone in with all your questions regarding sobriety, addiction, codependency, recovery, the Bling Ring, and my supposed debt to Orlando Bloom. It gets real on this episode, so I hope you enjoy! I look forward to more connection with you guys in the future.
  • Wake Up B*itch It’s 2019 w/ Laganja EstranjaIn this week’s episode, I’m having a conversation with the most iconic of queens, Langanja Estranja!  If you haven’t heard of Langanja, seriously, where have you been?! She is a talented drag queen who was on Season Six of RuPaul’s Drag Race, was recently on So You Think You Can Dance, has a huge Instagram following, is a dancer and choreographer, and is overall just fabulous.
  • Nancy Jo, Your Bias is ShowingIn this episode I’m owning my story. Last week over Twitter I (half-jokingly) invited Nancy Jo onto the podcast. Well… not only did she decline the invitation, but we got into it over Instagram DMs. And let me tell you, shade was thrown guys!
  • The Journey to Motherhood Matters w/ Ali LevineIn this episode, I chat with my good friend and fellow mama, Ali Levine.  Ali is truly such a light in my life, so I’m excited to share her with you all!  She is the host of two podcasts, Things We Are Too Lazy to Blog About and Striptd Down with Ali Levine.  She is also a stylist and personality on Bravo’s TV show, Stripped.  Now, she has struck a balance between work life and mama life, which is so inspiring to me. 
  • Literally Pretty Wild w/ Dan LevyI was definitely living a double life while filming Pretty Wild.  On camera, Tess and I were just these little party girls, but in reality, we had debilitating addictions. We were a chaotic bunch, but that’s what made the show a pop culture phenomenon. I’m now so far removed from that Alexis, and truly believe going to jail was the best thing that ever happened to me.
  • Heavily Influenced w/ Josi PellicanoIn this episode, I sit down with my childhood friend and true inspiration, Josi Pellicano!  I met Josi in middle school, and have always admired how resilient she is. She has a really interesting story to share that I know you guys will learn a lot from her strength. We talk about her dad’s incarceration for most of Josi’s life, her shifting family dynamic now that he’s out, and how she has adapted to all this trauma and adversity.
  • The Drama Stops With MeIn this episode, I spend some precious time w/ my spiritual mentor & reiki master, Ute Fleishman. A few episodes back, I talked about my profound reiki experience w/ Ute! She's had such an impact on my life & spiritual journey, so I'm very grateful to have her on the podcast. We talk about how Ute started energy work & how reiki has completely transformed both of our lives. We also give you guys tips & tricks to help you move from an existence of pain to one of peace. Read more on the blog! #ANDSOITIS
  • And So It Is w/ Andrea ArlingtonIn this episode, we are sitting down w/ Alexis’ mom, Andrea Arlington to talk all things early childhood, manifestation, & family recovery.  Alexis asks Andrea some juicy questions, & she dishes on dating as a single parent, if she regrets Pretty Wild, & what her spiritual practice/recovery looks like today.  They also serve some hard truths about family dynamics. So if you’ve ever wondered what Alexis was like as a child & in early recovery, this is the episode for you! Read more on the blog! #ANDSOI
  • Reasons To Stay Vigilant w/ Molly Jong-Fast We get political on today’s podcast with Alexis, Evan, and author, Molly Jong-Fast. Molly is an author of two novels, Normal Girl and The Social Climber’s Handbook and has a fantastic Twitter feed that makes you wonder if she ever sleeps. Today, we discuss everything scarily wrong with our political climate, from “Trumpism”, to looming racism/sexism, to climate change and of course, how we look after our collective mental health. Read more about this episode on our blog! #ANDSOITIS
  • Honey, You Gotta Do The Work - Q+A w/ AlexisFor this week's episode, Alexis is solo and does a little Q&A for you guys! Alexis addresses questions from our listeners and covers topics like; surgery, shame, relapse, tattoos, spirituality, adventures with Tess, porn, and The Bling Ring—just to name a few. Read more about this episode on our blog! If you or someone you love needs help, go to #ANDSOITIS
  • The Intersections of Feminism w/ Lauren SundstromWe have the lovely & inspiring Lauren Sundstrom on the podcast this week. Lauren is a proud trans woman & advocates for the LGBTQ community. She shares her story & insight with us, & we are so grateful to have her on! All women, trans & cis, deserve to speak up about their rights. Lauren’s strength & activism is amazing. People can relate & learn from her story & knowledge. Read more on the blog! #ANDSOITIS
  • Let Food Be Thy Medicine and Medicine Be Thy Food with Vanessa FitzgeraldOur special guest on this week’s episode is Vanessa Fitzgerald! Vanessa is an amazing holistic health coach who helps people become their best selves. She joins us to talk about her practice, and some health/lifestyle tips to clean up our guts and minds. Her Instagram feed shares gut health info and clean eating tips, but what really drew Alexis in was her Adderall detox. Her open discussion and work detoxing clients is inspiring. So stay tuned! Read more about this episode on our blog. #ANDSOITIS
  • Celebrating Body Diversity with Sarah Landry (The Birds Papaya) In this episode, we have the lovely Sarah Landry joining us from The Bird’s Papaya! Sarah is all about body confidence & loving yourself on & offline. We sit down to talk about her journey, the dangers of diet culture, & how we can benefit from body neutrality. Sarah believes creating awareness is key. Thank goodness for recovery, body confidence, & for Sarah’s amazing work! We are all worthy of the self-love message she is spreading. Read more about this episode on our blog! #ANDSOITIS
  • Birth, Babies and Circumcision with Robyn Pool from PUSH MidwiferyGiven the current events in the U.S. we felt the need to address this topic. Abortion access is a human right period. This is an issue that effects 1/4 women across party lines & religious affiliations. Alexis talks about her perspective & we dive into reproductive health care w/ Robyn Pool, a licensed midwife in L.A. area. We discuss VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean), circumcision, body autonomy, informed consent & more. We wrap this episode w/ a little something new, we hope you enjoy it. #ANDSOITIS
  • You Do You, I'm Gonna Do Me w/ Lauryn Evarts BosstickThis week’s episode features special guest Lauryn Evarts Bosstick from The Skinny Confidential. She joins us to talk about her goals w/ her brand, being her authentic self, & dealing w/ a family member’s addiction. The Skinny Confidential has become a multi-platform brand full of blog posts, social media content, podcast episodes, & even YouTube videos. From wellness, to business tips, to life advice, Lauryn has it all covered. #ANDSOITIS
  • Sober Kindred Souls w/ Arielle Lorre In this week’s episode, we have the lovely Arielle Lorre on to chat about her journey to sobriety, spirituality, & her new podcast, Over the Influence! Arielle is a blogger & health and fitness guru that posts delicious recipes, fitness tips on her beautiful Instagram account. What some people might not know about Arielle is that she's sober, & uses her recovery journey to help others. Her online presence allows her to be open about her struggles & help those that are struggling as well.
  • Living Anonymously with Dave from DopeyDave, the host of the Dopey podcast, & Alexis talk about his recovery journey, if AA is still “anonymous”, and what Dopey is all about. Dave has a way of turning the darkest experiences into the funniest stories. His show is one of the best recovery podcasts out there. Recently the show’s shift from silly to serious came with Chris’ tragic death. Dave uses his voice to help others because so many people helped him. If you or someone you love needs help, please go to
  • We Met in AAI sit down with my husband (& best friend) Evan Haines as we share some lessons we've learned along our path to recovery. This week we're celebrating our 7 yr wedding anniv. & it's the perfect time to reflect on our story. He inspired me from our very 1st date. On our 2nd date he asked to meet my mom & later that night broke up with me. An example of wisdom Evan drops in the episode, "In recovery we learn to accept ourselves & in finding that compassion for ourselves, we can find it for others" #andsoitis
  • Would You RatherI'm sitting down with my wonderful, hilarious sister Gabby! Sisters have such complex, chaotic, & sometimes telepathic bond. Throw in traumatic upbringing into the mix things are bound to be a little messy. We examine the different dynamics and roles we each played within the structure of our family unit and talk about how we don't want to extend those roles into our own families. This episode covers themes of forgiveness, resentment, and emotional oppression.
  • Sorry, Kristin CavallariIn this episode, I talk about balancing hormones, genetic testing, the gut-brain connection, and why I became a birth doula. I touch on heavy metal testing, EMF blockers, GMO's and MTHFR. Fair warning, I also talk about vaccinations. America currently has the highest maternal death rate of any westernized country, so I'm going to keep sharing my opinions and letting women know that we have the right to ask questions when it comes to our own health.  P.S. Kristin Cavallari, I owe you an apology.
  • My Shrink Knows About You Being a woman means accepting responsibility for your actions and owning up to your shit, right? On this episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis sits down with NYC based satire writer Millie Moore to talk about the mastermind that is Kris Jenner, the conspiracy that is Kim K's sex tape, and the chaos that is Jordan Woods's life. Trumps presidency is briefly discussed while Alexis and Millie muse about the responsibility for comedians like John Oliver and Bill Maher to "report" vs "entertain"
  • I Love You, MomBob Forrest has been to rehab 24 times and thinks Alexis's husband, Evan, is altogether too nice. It's safe to say that this episode of Recovering from Reality covers A LOT of ground. Suboxone in the '90s, "best friend parenting" styles (think: Lindsay and Dina Lohan), and why we should all stop confusing lust with love. Alexis and Bob talk about how to collectively change the direction our society is heading by steering each other towards a more connected reality.
  • Variations of NormalBeing married to a Backstreet Boy isn't always easy. Rochelle McLean is here to talk about what it's like being married to a pop star, online bullying, body shaming, & more. Alexis & her dear friend Rochelle talk about online hate mail, raising body positive daughters, & cream cheese pretzels! Rochelle is a private soul who's life got a little crazy when she married Backstreet Boy, AJ McLean. During this open-hearted chat, Rochelle shares how she met AJ & how she committed to a partner who's in recovery.
  • The ReunionFor the 2nd episode, Alexis is joined by family therapist Michele Kambolis for a conversation with the ladies of Pretty Wild, the 2009 reality show on E!. Pretty Wild followed Alexis, her mom, Andrea Arlington, and her sisters, Tess Taylor & Gabby Neiers, as they coped with the chaos of addiction, trauma, & serious legal troubles. In this episode, Alexis lays the groundwork for her family to share their experiences with the show. Thank you to everyone who helped make this episode a reality - and so it is!
  • A Special Kind of HellIn the very first episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis Haines focuses on telling her "official" recovery story. Alexis got sober at nineteen years old after facing up to six years in the correctional system due to addiction. As the former star of the E! reality series Pretty Wild, who faced a burglary conviction as a member of the notorious "Bling Ring”, Alexis understands the power of storytelling and media firsthand.

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